7 Things Jesus Never Said

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Jesus offends the mind in order to reveal the heart. During his time on earth he was a master at contradicting the religious thought and agenda of the day.

And He’s still at it.

He can do it because he is The Word. Literally all of Scripture is pointing to him. And what he said is relevant, useful, and life changing. Actually, it’s the ultimate truth.

So adding to his words to accommodate what we want to hear is not beneficial. Yes, it’s tempting to assume he said something that allows us to justify our beliefs… but we should turn that upside down. Let’s stick to shaping our beliefs based on what he actually said.

Here are a few examples. The 7 Things Jesus Never Said:

1. “I just want you to be happy” 

I know this magazine is called Happy Sonship. We have a high value for joy, pleasure and the enjoyment of our life Christ. But happiness is a by-product of surrender. Jesus wants me happy but he also wants me holy. He wants me happy, but he also wants my wife happy (and sometime the greatest hindrance to her happiness is the pursuit of my own). He did say, “I came to give you a life more abundant”.

Happiness is included, but there is also sacrifice, work, and a whole lot of dying to self.

2. “You’ll get what you deserve.” 

The opposite actually. Jesus came precisely to give us what we don’t deserve. He came so we could have his life, his fullness, his eternity. I know people who had HIV because of their past lifestyle and in one second, Jesus healed them. I know people (myself included) who have messed up majorly but Jesus covered their sins and restored their relationships.

Our deepest fear is judgement. Our deepest longing is love. Christ removes the one and provides the other.

3. “You need to have better boundaries”

I love my own space. I’m an introvert who likes his hula hoop. So I’m all about healthy boundaries. But Jesus seemed to be more about priorities. He never said, “No” to the crowds because he had boundaries to take care of. He said, “No” because he had a bigger “Yes” to spending time with his Father. You see, Jesus prioritized his prayer life, his 12 disciples, his ministry to the broken. So when he said “No” it was never based on self ambition (which is what I mostly use the word boundaries for), He was just saying “Yes” to the right things.

And let’s not forget that he said to let people slap you twice. He said to go the extra mile for others. To give to those who ask. To forgive 70×70 times. Those are all classic “bad boundaries”. However, they are perfect invitations to prioritising God and others.

4. “Just get over it!”

I used to love saying that. To my friends, my wife, people who were crying in front of me while asking for my counsel. But Jesus is way more patient than that. He’s willing to listen, he catches every tear and he is available to walk the long road of victory. The King already died for our freedom. Now, he’s willing to live it with us.

(Read more on The 15 Biggest Mistakes I’ve Made As A Pastor.)

 5. “I am a way, a truth, a life”

Wrong. Big time. Jesus is the Way the Truth and the Life and no one comes to the Father except through him. The problem is that we have so many churchy add-ons to what this means that we say “Jesus is the only way” but we behave like we own the road. When we get to heaven we will find that Jesus was way more gracious than we were.

Yes, he is the only way, but he’s also the only one in charge of road and the pay toll. Not you, or I, or any church.

6. “________ is the greatest country on earth”

It’s a good thing to cherish the land God blessed us with. We need to appreciate our culture, learn our history, respect our people. But Jesus could care less about our patriotism. The whole point of the gospel was to included everyone. For God so loved the world. Communists and Iranians and Muslims and Homosexuals, and even us Puertoricans! In his eyes, every country is the greatest country. Every person is his favorite person. At the cross we all became his number ones. And no matter your nationality, color, religion, politics or hairstyle, you have been loved into the greatest family.

7. “What would (I) Jesus do?”

Jesus never invited us to try hard to do it like he did it. We would obviously fail (again, again and again). The gospel is not, “WWJD?” The gospel is, “What Jesus Has Done Already!” If we try to be like him we will constantly be frustrated. If we acknowledge our weakness and embrace his sacrifice, we will be grateful and naturally supernatural.

The grace of God sets us free from a life of performing and pretending. Don’t try to be like Jesus, just acknowledge that you are already in Him, with Him, because of Him and through Him.

The Gospel is not my effort, the Gospel is Christ’s perfection.

No doubt, it’s best to focus on what Jesus actually said. There is so much love and goodness communicated in the words of Christ. So take time to read the gospels. Immerse yourself in his miracles and challenges. Let the Word himself revolutionise who you are. Even if it contradicts your foundations, stick to what Jesus said.

And instead of putting words in his mouth, let him put his words in yours.



There is no better news than that the God who makes the demand for perfection also meets the demand for perfection on our behalf.

*One of the most complete and beautiful books on Jesus: Jesus of Nazareth: Holy Week: From the Entrance Into Jerusalem To The Resurrection by Pope Benedict XVI


* Discover the perfect Father and get closer to the life you want in Christ: 

Carlos is a pastor, a provocative preacher and the author of "Designed for Inheritance". He also serves as director of Catch the Fire Latin America and Chief Editor at HappySonship.com. Together with his wife Catherine, they have two gorgeous boys and are awaiting a baby girl through adoption.


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  1. Didn’t Jesus say to be holy as He is holy? I believe we are to strive to be Christlike.

    • Hola Katrina. The bible does make an invitation to be holy, but Jesus never actually said those words. Our striving should only be used to rest:

      Hebrews 4:11 “Let us, therefore, make every effort (strive) to enter that rest…”

      Christlikeness is the work of Christ in us, not our effort for him. When we try, we fall. When we rest in HIS holiness, we overcome.

      • “But Jesus never actually said those words”
        Hum… Matthew 5:48
        “You therefore must be perfect, as your heavenly Father is perfect.”

        • Yes. I would use that exact verse to prove my point. Impossible for any of us to be perfect.

          Jesus was perfect. We are one with Jesus. Jesus is one with the Father. Perfection is found in unity with him, not in the efforts to be like him.

    • Being Holy is a good thing. But ultimately it is about our motives for why holiness is important. Are we trying to be Holy because we love God and our holiness out of an overflow of that love? Or are we being like the older brother, in Luke 15, out in the fields toiling and working to try and be holy so we can earn a spot in our father’s heart? A man who was good and holy for all the wrong reasons.

      Being Christlike is an amazing thing but true Christlikeness begins with knowing Col 3:3-5. When Father God sees us, He sees Jesus. Because He sees Jesus there is nothing we can to to improve or lessen our position or status in His eyes.

  2. The problem is striving doesn’t work, and trusting does. I have tried both ways, and the results were much better with the latter. It is amazing what Jesus will do with our lives if we simply trust and believe.

  3. Good post. On point #2 you listed our greatest fear as judgement and deepest longing as love. I’ve also seen a lot of fear around isolation (being alone) and much longing for acceptance. Not sure if you’ve seen power in those themes as well.

  4. Love #4, I’ve been guilty of being Job’s friends. I’ve learned that sometimes our presence is much more needed than our words.

  5. #7 blew me away! Thank you for putting into words what I struggle with daily! You actually answered a question I had asked the Lord about how to live for him without striving. He also put this song in my spirit!

    NOTHING IS HOLDING ME BACK by Brian and Katie Torwalt

    Thank You for the cross that You have carried
    Thank You for Your blood that was shed
    You took the weight of sin upon Your shoulders
    And Sacrificed Your life so I could live

    Now nothing is holding me back from You
    Redeemer of my soul
    Now nothing can hold me back from You
    Your Love will never let me go

    Thank You for Your death and resurrection
    Thank You for the power of Your blood
    I am overwhelmed by Your affection
    The Kindness and the Greatness of Your Love
    The Kindness and the Greatness of Your Love

    Thank You that we’re living in Your Kingdom
    Jesus You’re the King upon the throne
    Thank You for the way You always love me
    Now I get to love You in return
    Now I get to love You in return

    Jesus, You make all things new

  6. Jesus is god massinger like allmassigers started by adam and ended by mohamed
    this truth we have to belive.
    With my kindest rgds.

    • Ah, wadie, no, Jesus is not a prophet, Jesus is God’s son, Jesus and God are one
      Islam is nothing to do with nor does it belong with Christianity. It’s a false ideological government system with its own set of laws (sharia) but I’m sure you already know that

  7. [email protected] says:

    Jesus is god massinger like allmassigers started by adam and ended by mohamed
    this truth we have to belive.
    With my kindest rgds.