Josh Duggar issued another public apology today.
According to RelevantMagazine.com, “Yesterday, Duggar’s name was found in the user information from the site Ashley Madison—an online hookup service for people who want to cheat on their spouses—which was released by activist hackers. Now, he has released a statement, apologizing for actions:
“I have been the biggest hypocrite ever. While espousing faith and family values, I have secretly, over the last several years, been viewing pornography on the Internet. This became a secret addiction and I became unfaithful to my wife. I am so ashamed of the double life that I have been living and am grieved for the hurt, pain and disgrace my sin has caused my wife and family, and most of all Jesus and all those who profess faith in Him … I humbly ask for your forgiveness. Please pray for my precious wife Anna and our family during this time.”
The full statement is available on the Duggar family website. In May, the magazine In Touch Weekly published a redacted police report, which revealed that Duggar molested several young girls, including his own sisters, when he was a teenager. In the wake of the revelations, TLC canceled the show and Duggar apologized to fans for his actions. On the show, his family frequently referenced their Christian faith. Josh also once worked as the executive director of the Family Research Council, a lobbying group for conservative causes.”
The word Repentance (both in the Hebrew and the Greek) literally means to turn, to change direction, to redirect.
Crying and kneeling and saying sorry, can be signs of repentance, but they are not repentance itself. Repentance is a 180 towards honesty and transparency and truth. And it’s not until we eliminate all traces of blame shifting that we’ll encounter freedom from the guilt and the shame of our transgressions.
Repentance is intentionally bringing to the light the things that were done in secret.
We need to head in a different direction. Charismatics, Catholics, Protestants, Independent Baptist (and everyone else who believes in the Grace of Christ) the time has come to stop blaming what women are wearing, to stop blaming what Hollywood is showing, to stop blaming what politicians are endorsing, and start dealing with our sin.
We either clean house, or we stay quiet and live in filth.
Our spiritual communities have to be places where we shine a raking light into the blackest spaces and drive all the demons out into the open. Much too much of our legacy for far too many years, has been of a Church sacrificing victims’ needs on the altar of Public Relations management. – John Pavlovitz
Yes, we all struggle with something, and the only way forward is being honest about our issues, our pain and our sin.
God is not afraid of our failure, we are. And that same God loves us too much to keep us in darkness, even when the light hurts.
He is always willing to heal Josh, and his family, and the whole body of Christ. Let him start now, don’t wait till it’s out of your hands.
As Tullian Tchividjian wrote after being caught in an inappropriate relationship, “No vertical condemnation does not mean no horizontal consequences. Surrender early.”
Adam and Eve taught us to hide. Jesus invites us into the light. Healing is the recipe. Restoration is the goal. Grace is God’s formula.
It’s not just the time for Joshua Duggar to repent, but you and I with him.
[bctt tweet=”Dear Church, everyone is broken, stop pretending like you’re not.”]
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