A good-looking dude say no to sex with a good-looking girl.
He’s been saying no to sex with good-looking girls his whole life.
Then, good-looking girl breaks up with good-looking dude (because she wants the good-looking sex.)
And the internet goes wild.
According to the New York Daily News, the former Philadelphia Eagles quarterback was recently dumped by his girlfriend of two months, former Miss USA Olivia Culpo, because he wouldn’t consummate the relationship.
This is the price of Tebow’s Abstinence.
The paper reported that Culpo, who is now a professional model, had reportedly told friends how frustrated she was with the lack of intimacy in their relationship because of Tebow’s pledge to remain abstinent until marriage.
Tebow tweeted on the day of the break-up:
According to a friend, “[Tebow] was really into her, he was sending her love letters and cute notes and professing his love for her. She had to break up with him because she just couldn’t handle it. He still hits her up, but she just can’t deal with the sex thing. He’s pretty adamant about it, I guess.”
Good for him.
But as I wrote in The Ultimate Guide For First Time Christian Sex, “I want to make an invitation to us, the church, to join the conversation (as oppose to shy away from it again). The truth is that sex is found everywhere in Scripture. It was designed by God. Perfected by Puerto Ricans. And we Christians need to speak up about it, in a non-judgemental, non-religious, relevant way.
We could do a better job and have a sex-talk that is more than the usual “have-no-sex” talk. We are sending our young people into the marriage bed as virgins (good) but also as morons (bad). And the amount of conversations I have had with young couples who have properly struggled with their sex life is staggering.”
If we preach all the verses against lust and seduction and sexual sin (which is the right thing to do) then we also need to teach all the verse on beauty and creativity and romance and awesome sex (which is the best thing to do).
I’m all about abstinence. I have experienced its pain and its glory. Let’s just make sure that is not the only sermon we are sharing with the world about sex.
You see, one of the hardest thing for a young christian, is to abstain from sex before marriage. Jesus knows that well.
Sex is natural, sex is available, and sex is so very good.
So this is not a sex-is-everywhere-in-this-day-and-age problem (although that’s true), it is more of an overall human issue.
Paul had to address it 2,000 years ago when he wrote, “If they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” 1 Corinthians 7:9
It’s human nature to desire a physical connection with a person you are attracted to (part of God’s perfect design). And denying that fact is religious stupidity.
Yet embracing that truth and being accountable for it… well, that’s a beautiful (and powerful) thing to do.
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4
For those of you reading who could not wait, and are struggling with shame and regret…
You are forgiven. Jesus is your savior. Don’t listening to the lies of the accusers. You are not damaged goods.
For Tim Tebow (and all the other Tim Tebow’s of the world) good job for sticking to your commitment. It’s cool to see people who stand by God’s word (and their own).
And for all of you, maybe it’s time to say yes to the ultimate commitment: Marriage.
In that pledge you can have sex and stay faithful to God.
“We have heard the “keep your virginity” stuff for years without a good explanation for why. We’re trying to play the game, but we aren’t set to win, because no one is telling us that there’s a trophy worth paying a price for.”
This quote is from Moral Revolution: The Naked Truth About Sexual Purity, by Kris Vallotton. Read more.